塞缪尔?斯迈尔斯
想要生活节俭是一件十分容易的事。首要原则是:收入大于支出。为了将来,我们应该储存一部分钱。而那些支出大于收入的人则是十足的笨蛋。
第二条原则就是不要四处借钱。抵制任何让自己负债累累的理由。
负债的人大都习惯编造谎言。如果某人一旦债务缠身,他就很容易变得不再诚实。“将花销控制在收入的范围内,就会使自己变得富有。”
第三条原则就是在无法预料的金钱到手之前,永远不要动用自己的存款。一旦没有得到利润,你便会深陷债务危机,甚至永远不能翻身。
第四条原则就是定期将你所有的收入与花销记录下来。无论做什么事,一个生活有规划的人事先总会知道要做什么,并为达成此事提供所需的资金。更重要的是,他们往往能够达到收支平衡。
人们很难确定节俭的程度。培根曾说过,如果一个人要达到收支平衡,他花销的数额一定不能超出收入额的一半,并能将其余的钱都存起来。或许这种定位太过苛刻,连培根也没有遵循自己的言论。一个人应该将收入的多少用在房租上?这恐怕得由个人的情况而定。
无论家庭成员有多少,积累的钱越多,人们的生活就越好。节俭,无论对中等收入家庭还是贫穷人群,都是至关重要的。不知道节俭的人,就无法成为一个大方的人——囊中羞涩的他,只能远离所有的社会慈善活动。
假如一个人身无分文,那就根本谈不到帮助别人。他既不能给予孩子良好的教育,也不能指导孩子在社会上找到发展方向。日常生活中,不计其数的事实已充分证明,即使智商不高的人也可以成功地养成节俭的习惯。
然而节俭对于各阶层人士的影响仍显得微不足道。他们更习惯过着负债的生活。出于贪欲与吝啬而存钱与节俭是截然不同的概念。两者都主张杜绝浪费,竭尽全力节省每一样东西,不过两者的出发点则各不相同。吝啬鬼唯一的快乐在于积累;而节俭的人是在力所能及的范围内,尽情享受生活的同时,积攒钱以备不时之需。在贪婪的人心中,金子就是他的偶像;而在节俭之人看来,金子只是一种有用的工具,一种提高自身以及家人生活质量的手段。吝啬鬼永远不会有满足感,他们从不享用自己积累起来的财富,而他们留下的遗产,最大的可能就是被他的家人挥霍一空。而节俭的人根本没有积累多少财富的想法,他们在乎的是眼前的生活,确保优质生活的同时积累金钱。
在极具价值目标的激励下,一个人努力地节省金钱,即便最终没有成功,也能够体现个人的尊严。这一过程能够促使人更好地组织思想,彻底改掉肆意浪费的陋习;促使美德战胜邪恶;并且能控制住冲动,解除忧虑,确保人们过上舒适的生活。即便你的储蓄少得可怜,也可以使你抹去许多泪水,摆脱痛苦与不安的困扰。有部分存款在手,我们的步履就会变得轻盈,心情也会更加愉悦。
当失业或不幸降临时,我们可以坦然地接受一切,可以利用现有的资本战胜困难或阻止情况恶化。通过一个人的节俭,我们可以看到他的尊严,生活也将变成一种福音。
心灵小语
节俭是一种美德。节俭可以使人过上幸福独立的生活,节俭可以让我们对需要帮助的人给予援助。而吝啬和挥霍则是我们所摒弃的,它们只会毁坏我们的生活。因此保持节俭的好习惯,个人的尊严尽显其中,生活也会变得有滋有味!+
Methods+of+Economy
Samuel+Smiles
The+methods+of+practicing+economy+are+very+simple.+Spend+less+than+you+earn.+That+is+the+first+rule.+A+portion+should+always+be+set+apart+for+the+future.+The+person+who+spends+more+than+he+earns,+is+a+fool.+
The+next+rule+is+to+pay+ready+money,+and+never,+on+any+account,+to+run+into+debt.+
The+person+who+runs+into+debt+is+apt+to1+get+cheated+and+if+he+runs+into+debt+to+any+extent,+he+will+himself+be+apt+to+get+dishonest.+“Who+pays+what+he+owes,+enriches+himself.”
The+next+is,+never+to+anticipate+uncertain+profits+by+expending+them+before+they+are+secured.+The+profits+may+never+come,+and+in+that+case+you+will+have+taken+upon+yourself+a+load+of+debt+which+you+may+never+get+rid+of.+
Another+method+of+economy+is,+to+keep+a+regular+account+of+all+that+you+earn,+and+of+all+that+you+expend.+An+orderly+man+will+know+beforehand+what+he+requires,+and+will+be+provided+with+the+necessary+means+for+obtaining+it.+Thus+his+domestic+budget+will+be+balanced+and+his+expenditure2+kept+within+his+income.+
It+is+difficult+to+fix+the+precise+limits+of+economy.+Bacon+says+that+if+a+man+would+live+well+within+his+income,+he+ought+not+to+expend+more+than+onehalf,+and+save+the+rest.+This+is+perhaps+too+eting+and+Bacon+himself+did+not+follow+his+own+advice.+What+proportion+of+one’s+income+should+be+expended+on+rent?+That+depends+upon+circumstances.+
Wherever+there+is+a+large+family,+the+more+money+that+is+put+to+one+side+and+saved,+the+better.+Economy+is+necessary+to+the+moderately+rich,+as+well+as+to+the+comparatively+poor+man.+Without+economy,+a+man+cannot+be+generous.+He+cannot+take+part+in+the+charitable+work+of+the+world.+
If+he+spends+all+that+he+earns,+he+can+help+nobody.+He+cannot+properly+educate+his+children,+nor+put+them+in+the+way+of+starting+fairly+in+the+business+of+life.++Thousands+of+witnesses+daily+testify,+that+men+even+of+the+most+moderate+intelligence,+can+practice+the+virtue+with+success.+
Men+of+all+classes+are,+as+yet,+too+little+influenced+by+these+considerations.+They+are+apt+to+live+beyond+their+incomes.+
To+save+money+for+avaricious+purposes+is+altogether+different+from+saving+it+for+economical+purposes.+The+saving+may+be+accomplished+in+the+same+manner—by+wasting+nothing,+and+saving+everything.+But+here+the+comparison+ends.+The+miser’s+only+pleasure+is+in+saving.+The+prudent+economist+spends+what+he+can+afford+for+comfort+and+enjoyment,+and+saves+a+surplus+for+some+future+time.+The+avaricious+person+makes+gold+his+idol,+whereas+the+thrifty+person+regards+it+as+a+useful+instrument,+and+as+a+means+of+promoting+his+own+happiness+and+the+happiness+of+those+who+are+dependent+upon+him.+The+miser+is+never+satisfied.+He+amasses+wealth+that+he+can+never+consume,+but+leaves+it+to+be+squandered+by+others,+probably+by+spendthrifts+whereas+the+economist+aims+at+securing+a+fair+share+of+the+world’s+wealth+and+comfort,+without+any+thought+of+amassing+a+fortune.+
There+is+a+dignity+in+the+very+effort+to+save+with+a+worthy+purpose,+even+though+the+attempt+should+not+be+crowned+with+eventual+success.+It+produces+a+wellregulated+mind;it+gives+prudence+a+triumph+over+extravagance3+it+gives+virtue+the+mastery+over+vice+it+puts+the+passions+under+control+it+drives+away+care+it+secures+comfort.+Saved+money,+however+little,+will+serve+to+dry+up+many+a+tear;will+ward+off+many+sorrows+and+heart+burnings,+which+otherwise+might+prey+upon+us.+Possessed+of+a+little+store+of+capital,+a+man+walks+with+a+lighter+step—his+heart+beats+more+cheerily.+
When+interruption+of+work+or+adversity+happens,+he+can+meet+them+he+can+recline+on+his+capital,+which+will+either+break+his+fall,+or+prevent+it+altogether.+By+prudential+economy,+we+can+realize+the+dignity+of+man+life+will+be+a+blessing.
世界换个角度更美丽
玛丽?特德
最近,我和丈夫有幸帮助了两位完全陌生的人。这件事令我感到非常愉快,觉得应该与大家共同分享一下。
感恩节来临的那个星期,我们一起回墨西哥与家人共度。由于我经常出差,所以累积了足够的旅程,可以将机票等级升级为头等舱。当我们坐在头等舱最前排的两个座位等待起飞时,我无意中听到一位空中小姐对其他人说,有一对前一天刚结婚的夫妇坐在飞机的后排,正要开始他们的蜜月旅行。实际上,他们在8个月前就预订了航班,可是由于航班时间作了调整,最后他们不能坐在一起了。飞机上的乘客没有人愿意与他们调换座位,新娘这时正伤心地哭呢。
我转向丈夫,告诉他我所听到的事情。我们立刻达成共识,我叫来空中小姐,告诉她我们愿意将座位让给这对夫妇。空中小姐非常惊讶地说:“真的吗?你们确定吗?”我和丈夫回答说:“非常确定!”
于是,我们挪到了飞机的后面。我坐在靠近后面的中间位置,我那身高6英尺3英寸的丈夫则坐在飞机最后排靠窗的位置。
空中小姐非常感激我们,对我们照顾有加,虽然我们已经不在头等舱了,可我们与自己旁边的乘客成了朋友(后来得知,他们其实并不知道那位年轻的女士为什么哭泣,也不知道他们是一对新婚夫妇),度过了一段非常开心的旅程。中途,我不得不回到原来的座位取忘在那里的东西,看到那对夫妇正紧紧地靠在一起,开心地喝着香槟。
这件事让我这一天以及感恩节的整个星期都有了一个愉快的开始!
The+World+Looks+Better+from+the+Way+Back
Mary+Tedd
Recently,+my+husband+and+I+had+the+opportunity+to+do+something+good+for+two+people+who+were+complete+strangers+to+us.+It+made+us+feel+so+good+to+be+able+to+do+it+that+I+thought+I+should+share.
We+were+traveling+down+to+Meo+for+Thanksgiving+week+with+our+family.+Since+I+travel+a+lot+for+work,+we+had+enough+frequent+flier+miles+to+upgrade+our+tickets+to+first+class+seats.+As+we+were+sitting+in+the+very+first+two+seats+in+the+first+row+of+first+class+waiting+for+the+plane+to+depart,++I+overheard+one+of+the+flight+attendants+telling+the+others+that+there+was+a+couple+sitting+in+the+back+of+the+plane+who+had+just+been+married+the+previous+day+and+were+headed+off+on+their+honeymoon.+They+had+booked+their+flight+eight+months+in+advance+but,+due+to+some+schedule+changes,+had+not+been+able+to+get+seats+together,+no+one+else+on+the+plane+was+willing+to+move+and+the+bride+was+in+tears.
I+turned+to+my+husband+and+told+him+what+I+heard.+We+immediately+agreed+and+I+called+the+flight+attendant+over+to+tell+her+that+we+would+be+happy+to+give+up+our+seats+for+this+couple.+The+flight+attendant+seemed+shocked+and+amazed+and+said,+“Really?+Are+you+sure?”+We+said,+“Absolutely!”
So,+we+moved+to+the+back+of+the+plane,+I+in+a+middle+seat+part+way+back+and+my+husband,++who+is+6’3”,+in+the+window+seat+of+the+last+row+of+the+plane.
The+flight+attendants+were+extremely+grateful+and+took+good+care+of+us+even+though+we+were+no+longer+sitting+in+first+class,+and+we+both+made+friends+with+the+people+sitting+around+us(who,+as+it+turns+out,+didn’t+know+why+the+young+woman+was+crying+or+that+they+were+newlyweds)+and+had+a+great+flight.+I+had+to+go+back+to+the+front+of+the+plane+to+retrieve+a+forgotten+item+at+one+point+during+the+flight+and+observed+that+the+newlyweds+were+sitting+very+close+together,+happily+sipping+champagne.
It+really+made+my+day+and+Thanksgiving+week+to+get+off+with+such+a+wonderful+start!
梦想去飞
佚名
能够将梦想变为现实的人绝对是凤毛麟角,而拉里?沃尔特斯正是其中之一。他的故事是真实的,尽管你可能觉得有些不切实际。
拉里是卡车司机,然而他毕生的梦想却是飞行。高中毕业后,梦想成为飞行员的拉里决定参加美国空军。不幸的是,糟糕的视力没能让他如愿。所以,直到最后退役,拉里也只好在后院里看着喷气式战斗机在空中往来穿梭,以得到一丝安慰。每当拉里坐在草坪椅上,便会想象着飞翔的美妙。
一天,拉里?沃尔特斯想到了一个主意。他去了当地海军剩余物资供应处,买了一罐氦气和45只皮气球。这些气球可不是派对上五彩缤纷的气球,而是载重气球,充足气后可以达到4英尺多宽。回到院子后,拉里用绳子将气球系在草坪椅上。这种椅子在你们家后院里或许就能找到。
拉里将椅子固定在吉普车的保险杆上,然后给气球注入氦气,随后准备好三明治、饮料,以及装满子弹的BB猎枪,打算到时候打爆几个气球就可以返回地面了。
万事俱备后,拉里?沃尔特斯便坐到椅子上,割断了固定绳索。他原本计划慢悠悠地飘上一阵子,然后再慢悠悠地返回地面。然而,情况并不是那么简单。
当拉里割断绳索时,他并没有慢悠悠地飘上去,反而像大炮里射出的炮弹一样射向了天空,而且也不是仅仅升到几百英尺的高空。他不断攀升,最终居然升到了11000英尺的高空!在这样的高度,拉里可不敢放掉任何气球的氦气,要是失去平衡,就真的要在空中飞了!所以,他老老实实地待在那里,整整飘了+14个小时,根本不知道该如何着陆。最终,他飘到了洛杉矶国际机场的航道上。一名泛美航空公司的飞行员向控制台报告:有名男子坐在11000英尺高空中的一个草坪椅上……腿上还放着一把枪。
洛杉矶国际机场靠近海洋。你知道,一到黄昏时分,海岸上的风向会变。因此,随着夜幕慢慢降临,拉里便开始向海的方向飘去。
这时,海军派了一架直升机前来营救。然而,救援队很难接近拉里,因为螺旋桨的气流总是将他自制的装置推得更远。最终,他们盘旋在拉里的上方,抛下营救绳索,才将他慢慢拖回到地面。
拉里的脚刚一着地就被逮捕了。
然而,当拉里戴着手铐被带走时,一名电视台记者大声喊道:“沃尔特斯先生,你为什么要这样做?”
拉里止住脚步,看了看这个人,若无其事地说:“是个男人,就不能只坐着。”
心灵小语
每个人都有一个梦想,梦想有多大,世界就有多辽阔。有的梦想是毕生抱负,是无论如何都要实现的,而这些梦想通常与事业有关;有的则是生活小梦,仅是追求人生的平衡。那么你的梦想又是什么呢?你是如何对待自己的梦想的呢?是付诸实践,还是坐以待毙?
Dream+to+Fly
Anonymous
Larry+Walters+is+among+the+relatively+few+who+have+actually+turned+their+dreams+into+reality.+His+story+is+true,+even+though+you+may+find+it+hard+to+believe.
Larry+was+a+truck+driver,+but+his+lifelong+dream+was+to+fly.+When+he+graduated+from+high+school,+he+joined+the+Air+Force+in+hopes+of+becoming+a+pilot.+Unfortunately,+poor+eyesight+disqualified+him.+So,+when+he+finally+left+the+service,+he+had+to+satisfy+himself+with+watching+others+fly+the+fighter+jets+that+crisscrossed+the+skies+over+his+backyard.+As+he+sat+there+in+his+lawn+chair,+he+dreamed+about+the+magic+of+flying.
Then+one+day,+Larry+Walters+got+an+idea.+He+went+down+to+the+local+ArmyNavy+surplus+store+and+bought+a+tank+of+helium1+and+fortyfive+weather+balloons.+These+were+not+your+brightly+colored+party+balloons,+these+were+heavyduty+spheres+measuring+more+than+four+feet+across+when+fully+inflated.+Back+in+his+yard,+Larry+used+straps+to+attach+the+balloons+to+his+lawn+chair,+the+kind+you+might+have+in+your+own+back+yard.htTΡδ://WwW.ЪǐQiKǔ.йēT
He+anchored+the+chair+to+the+bumper2+of+his+jeep+and+inflated+the+balloons+with+helium.+Then+he+packed+some+sandwiches+and+drinks+and+loaded+a+BB+gun,+figuring+he+could+pop+a+few+of+those+balloons+when+it+was+time+to+return+to+earth.
His+preparations+completed,+Larry+Walters+sat+in+his+chair+and+cut+the+anchoring+cord.+His+plan+was+to+lazily+float+up+away,+and+then+lazily+back+down+to+terra+firma.+But,+things+didn’t+quite+work+out+that+way.
When+Larry+cut+the+cord,+he+didn’t+float+lazily+up—he+shot+up+as+if+fired+from+a+cannon!Nor+did+he+go+up+a+couple+hundreds+feet.+He+climbed+and+climbed,+until+he+finally+leveled+off3+at+eleven+thousand+feet!At+that+height,+he+could+hardly+risk+deflating+any+of+the+balloons,+lest+he+unbalance+the+load+and+really+experience+flying!+So,+he+stayed+up+there,+sailing+around+for+fourteen+hours,+totally+at+a+loss+as+to+how+to+get+down.+Eventually,+Larry+drifted+into+the+approach+corridor+for+Los+Angeles+International+Airport.+A+Pan+Am+pilot+radioed+the+tower+about+passing+a+guy+on+a+lawn+chair+at+eleven+thousand+feet...+with+a+gun+on+his+lap.
LAX+is+fight+on+the+ocean,+and+you+may+know+that+at+nightfall,+the+winds+on+the+coast+begin+to+change.+So,+as+dusk+fell,+Larry+began+drifting+out+to+sea.
At+that+point,+the+Navy+dispatched+a+helicopter4+to+rescue+him.+But,+the+rescue+team+had+a+hard+time+getting+to+him,+because+the+draft+from+their+propeller+kept+pushing+his+homemade+contraption5+farther+and+farther+away.+Eventually,+they+were+able+to+hover+over+him+and+drop+a+rescue+line+with+which+they+gradually+hauled+him+back+to+earth.
As+soon+as+Larry+hit+the+ground,+he+was+arrested.
But+as+he+was+being+led+away+in+handcuffs,+a+television+reporter+called+out+to+ask,+“Mr.+Walters,+why+did+you+do+it?”
Larry+stopped,+eyed+the+man+for+a+moment+and+replied+nonchalantly,“A+man+can’t+just+sit+around.”
快乐是种感觉
佚名
人类的一切快乐都是生理上的快乐,这种说法的确是科学的。你们有可能对此产生误解,因此我必须要更加清晰地解释一下:人类所有的快乐都是感官上的快乐。我敢肯定,唯心主义者会误解我。因为唯心主义者和唯物主义者之间没有共通的语言,或者表达同种事物的方式不同,所以他们永远都是互相误解的。在什么是快乐的问题上,难道我们也要被唯心主义者所迷惑,而承认真正的快乐只是精神上的快乐吗?让我们首先接受这个观点,并立即这样完善它:精神是内分泌腺充分作用的一种表现。
对我而言,快乐主要是一个消化方面的问题。为了使我的话更有说服力,我会引用一位美国大学校长的话。这位校长通常会在对每班的新生致词中,极富智慧地说这样一句话:“我想让你们铭记两件事,一是诵读《圣经》,二是保持排便通畅。”他能说出这样的话,真不愧是一位博学而慈祥的长者!肠动,人欢;肠止,则人颓。道理就在于此。
当我们谈论快乐时,千万不能在抽象中迷失自我,而应认真地考虑事实,主动分析在我们生活中什么才是真正的快乐。我们经常用否定的方式来定义快乐,比如无忧、无辱和无恙。当然,快乐也会以肯定的形式出现,我们叫它欢乐。
比如,对我来说,真正的快乐时光有:睡了一夜好觉后,早晨起来大口呼吸着清新的空气,感受到肺部在扩张。并且深呼吸时,还感觉到胸部四周的皮肤和肌肉在舒展。那种感觉非常惬意,这是工作的好时候。或者,拿着烟斗,把脚放在椅子上,让烟草缓慢地燃烧。或者,夏日里旅游中,当我口干舌燥时忽见一汪清泉,叮咚的泉水声让我心旷神怡,我脱下鞋袜,把两脚伸入凉爽的水中。或者,一顿美餐后,我懒洋洋地躺在扶手椅里,身边的人都十分顺眼,大家轻松而不着边际地闲聊着,我的身心也融入了这个世界,非常平静。或者,夏日的午后,我看到天边翻滚的乌云,确信7月的一场阵雨即将来临,但为了避免被人看到不带伞跑入雨中的窘态,于是匆匆出门,穿过田野,到半路上去迎接阵雨,回家时全身湿透,却还对家人说只是路上遭遇大雨了。
我难以说清楚,当听见孩子们唧唧喳喳的声音或看见他们胖嘟嘟的小腿时,自己是爱他们的身体还是精神。因此,我也无法完全区分精神上和上的快乐。有哪个人只爱一个女人的精神,而不爱她的身体?分析并说出他所爱的女人的魅力,如她的谈笑举止或处世态度,这对一个男人来说会是件容易的事吗?
毕竟,每个女孩,当她打扮得漂亮时,都会格外开心。口红和胭脂可以提升她们的精神,知道自己穿着得体可以使她们心境平和,对女孩来说这是千真万确的。而对于这些,唯心主义者却一无所知。作为凡人,我们的精神和之间的界限极其狭小;如果没有感觉,我们将无法拥有精神世界、最纤细的情感及对精神美的最伟大的常识。触觉、仪态和视觉,与精神上的道德与否毫不相干。我们之所以丧失享受生活中切实快乐的能力,在很大程度上,是要归咎于我们感官的麻木和对它们的不充分利用。
心灵小语
不同的人,对于快乐的事有不同的认识,然而有一点是相同的——快乐是一种感官上的感受。时刻让自己的触觉、视觉对外界的事物有较高的敏感度,那么我们感觉到的快乐就会更多。
Human+Happiness+Is+Sensuous
Anonymous
All+human+happiness+is+biological+happiness.+That+is+strictly+scientific.+At+the+risk+of+being+misunderstood,+I+must+make+it+clearer:+all+human+happiness+is+sensuous+happiness.+The+spiritualists+will+misunderstand+me,+I+am+sure+The+spiritualists+and+materialists+must+forever+misunderstand+each+other,+because+they+don’t+talk+the+same+language,+or+mean+by+the+same+word+with.+different+things.+Are+we,+too,+in+this+problem+of+securing+happiness+to+be+deluded+by+the+spiritualists,+and+admit+that+true+happiness+is+only+happiness+of+the+spirit?+Let+us+admit+at+once+and+immediately+proceed+to+qualify+it+by+saying+that+the+spirit+is+a+condition+of+the+perfect+functioning+of+the+endocrine+glands.
Happiness+for+me+is+largely+a+matter+of+digestion.+I+have+to+take+over+under+an+American+college+president+to+insure+my+reputation+and+respectability+when+I+say+that+happiness+is+largely+a+matter+of+the+movement+of+the+bowels.+The+American+college+president+in+question+used+to+say+with+great+wisdom+in+his+address+to+each+class+of+freshmen,+“There+are+only+two+things+I+want+you+to+keep+in+mind:+read+the+Bible+and+keep+your+bowels+open.”+What+a+wise,+genial+old+soul+he+was+to+have+said+that!+If+one’s+bowels+move,+one+is+happy,+and+if+they+don’t+move,+one+is+unhappy.+That+is+all+there+is+in+it.
Let+us+not+lose+ourselves+in+the+abstract+when+we+talk+of+happiness,+but+get+down+to+facts+and+analyze+for+ourselves+what+are+the+truly+happy+moments+of+our+life.+In+this+world+of+ours,+happiness+is+very+often+negative,+the+complete+absence+of+sorrow+or+mortification+or+bodily+ailment1.+But+happiness+can+also+be+positive,+and+then+we+call+it+joy.
To+me,+for+instance,+the+truly+happy+moments+are:+when+I+get+up+in+the+morning+after+a+night+of+perfect+sleep+and+sniff+the+morning+air+and+there+is+an+expansiveness+in+the+lungs,+when+I+feel+inclined+to+inhale+deeply+and+there+is+a+fine+sensation+or+movement+around+the+skin+and+muscles+of+the+chest,+and+when+therefore,+I+am+fit+for+work+Or+when+I+hold+a+pipe+in+my+hand+and+rest+my+legs+on+a+chair,+and+the+tobacco+burns+slowly+and+evenly+Or+when+I+am+traveling+on+a+summer+day,+my+throat+parched+with+the+thirst,+and+I+see+a+beautiful+clear+spring,+whose+very+sound+makes+me+happy,+and+I+take+off+my+socks+and+shoes+and+dip+my+feet+in+the+delightful,+cool+water+or+when+after+a+perfect+dinner+I+lounge+in+an+armchair,+when+there+is+no+one+I+hate+to+look+at+in+the+company+and+conversation+rambles+off+at+a+light+pace+to+an+unknown+destination,+and+I+am+spiritually+and+physically+at+peace+with+the+world+or+when+on+a+summer+afternoon+I+see+black+clouds+gathering+on+the+horizon+and+know+for+certain+a+July+shower+is+coming+in+a+quarter+of+an+hour,+but+being+ashamed+to+be+seen+going+out+into+the+rain+without+an+umbrella,+I+hastily+set+out+to+meet+the+shower+halfway+across+the+fields+and+come+home+drenched2+through+and+through+and+tell+my+family+that+I+was+simply+caught+by+the+rain.
Just+as+it+is+impossible+for+me+to+say+whether+I+love+my+children+physically+or+spiritually+when+I+hear+their+chattering+voices+or+when+I+see+their+plump+legs,+so+I+am+totally+unable+to+distinguish+between+the+joys+of+the+mind+and+the+joys+of+the+flesh.+Does+anybody+ever+love+a+woman+spiritually+without+loving+her+physically?+And+is+it+so+easy+a+matter+for+a+man+to+analyze+and+separate+the+charms+of+the+woman+he+lovesthings+like+laughters,+smiles,+a+way+of+tossing+one’s+head,+a+certain+attitude+toward+things?
And+after+all+every+girl+feels+happier+when+she+is+welldressed.+There+is+a+souluplifting+quality+about+lipstick+and+rouge+and+a+spiritual+calm+and+poise+that+comes+from+the+knowledge+of+being+welldressed,+which+is+real+and+definite+for+the+girl+herself+and+of+which+the+spiritualist+has+no+inkling+of+an+idea.+Being+made+of+this+mortal+flesh,+the+partition+separating+our+flesh+from+our+spirit+is+extremely+thin,+and+the+world+of+spirit,+with+its+finest+emotions+and+greatest+appreciations+of+spiritual+beauty,+cannot+be+reached+except+with+our+senses.+There+is+no+such+thing+as+morality+and+immorality+in+the+sense+of+touch,++bearing+and+vision.+There+is+a+great+probability+that+our+loss+of+capacity+for+enjoying+the+positive+joys+of+life+is+largely+due+to+the+decreased+sensibility3+of+our+senses+and+our+lack+of+full+use+of+them.
幸福快乐就好
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佚名
我们努力想让子女生活得更好,最终却事与愿违。对我的孙儿们,我知道了怎么做才会更好。
我很想让他们知道,兄长传给我的旧衣服、家里自制的冰淇淋,以及剩下的肉糕的故事。我的确很想讲给他们听。
我的宝贝孙子,我希望你在遭遇失败后懂得谦逊,也希望你能诚实,即使没有人关注你。
我希望你能学会整理床铺,修剪草坪,清洗汽车,也希望当你满16岁时没有人送你新轿车。
我希望你能有幸目睹一次牛犊出生的过程,或是在一位朋友的陪伴下为老狗送终。
我希望你宁愿被别人打得鼻青脸肿,也要坚守自己的信仰。
我希望你能和弟弟同住一室,即使你在卧室中间画一条分界线也无所谓。当弟弟因为害怕要钻进你的被窝时,我希望你能接纳他。
还有,当你要去看迪斯尼电影,而弟弟想跟你一起去时,我希望你能带上他。
我希望你能与朋友们一起爬山,而且,我希望你居住的城市爬山不会有任何危险。
如果你想要一把弹弓,我希望你父亲能教你自己制造,而不是给你买把现成的。我希望你学会玩泥巴和读书;当你学会使用计算机时,也学会了加减法的心算。
当你第一次对一个女孩动心时,我希望你会被朋友们嘲弄;而当你跟母亲顶嘴时,希望她让你尝尝象牙色肥皂的滋味。
我希望你能饱尝岁月的艰辛、挫折和失望,并希望你努力工作,幸福快乐。
Happiness+Is+Better
+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
+Anonymous
We+tried+so+hard+to+make+things+better+for+our+kids+that+we+made+them+worse.+For+my+grandchildren,+I’d+know+better.+
I’d+really+like+for+them+to+know+about+handmedown+clothes+and+homemade+ice+cream+and+leftover+meatloaf.+I+really+would.+
My+cherished+grandson,+I+hope+that+you+learn+humility+by+surviving+failure+and+that+you+learn+to+be+honest+even+when+no+one+is+looking.
I+hope+you+learn+to+make+your+bed+and+mow+the+lawn+and+wash+the+car+and+I+hope+nobody+gives+you+a+brandnew+car+when+you+are+sixteen.
It+will+be+good+if+at+least+one+time+you+can+see+a+baby+calf+born,+and+you+have+a+good+friend+to+be+with+you+if+you+ever+have+to+put+your+old+dog+to+sleep.+
I+hope+you+get+a+black+eye+fighting+for+something+you+believe+in.
I+hope+you+have+to+share+a+bedroom+with+your+younger+brother.+And+it+is+all+right+to+draw+a+line+down+the+middle+of+the+room,+but+when+he+wants+to+crawl+under+the+covers+with+you+because+he’s+scared,+I+hope+you’ll+let+him.
And+when+you+want+to+see+a+Disney+movie+and+your+kid+brother+wants+to+tag+along,+I+hope+you+take+him.
I+hope+you+have+to+walk+uphill+with+your+friends+and+that+you+live+in+a+town+where+you+can+do+it+safely.
If+you+want+a+slingshot,+I+hope+your+father+teaches+you+how+to+make+one+instead+of+buying+one.+I+hope+you+learn+to+dig+in+the+dirt+and+read+books,+and+when+you+learn+to+use+computers,+you+also+learn+how+to+add+and+subtract+in+your+head.
I+hope+you+get+razzed+by+friends+when+you+have+your+first+crush+on+a+girl,+and+that+when+you+talk+back+to+your+mother+you+learn+what+Ivory+soap+tastes+like.
These+things+I+wish+for+you—tough+times+and+disappointment,+hard+work+and+happiness.
为你的目标点燃之火
布朗?兰登
希望终究是希望,唯一的作用不过是使你产生更多新的希望;则是灵魂的心声,它会要求并督促你采取行动。希望只是徘徊,希望其他的事物让你愿望成真;而则不断发展,它勇于伸展,热情万丈,注定要转化为现实。
请注意以下这些事实:源于你内心完美的思想,它是你心中燃起的一团火焰;有时,这团火焰会很暗淡,甚至彻底熄灭;有时,它会转变成一团熊熊燃烧的烈火,甚至激励你采取行动。如果我们不能将与行动结合在一起,内心的那团烈火就会熄灭,你的永远不会成真。当你因为从前的失败而感到气馁,致使心中的之火变得黯淡时,你该怎样做呢?让自己的感受与情绪重新点燃你内心的之火!你的思想根本没有作用,它们就像潮湿的木头和被水浸湿的沙子一样。内心单纯的思考和想法,只会使火焰更加暗淡无光。
这一点是现实的,而又是不能随便被忽视的——过去失败的经历会使你产生一种挫败感,使你无法燃起心中的,或者刚刚燃起的之火由于害怕失败而变得越来越弱。点燃你内心的之火,你的梦想才能成真。将你的真实的情感融入到你内心的烈焰中吧!
假设你是一个女人,你是否渴望变得像玫瑰花一样娇艳呢?在头脑中想象出玫瑰花的颜色吧!想象被这种颜色所包围带给你的快乐吧!如果你的脸庞像玫瑰花一样红润,那将会是多么美好的事情啊!再次默默地想象着玫瑰花的颜色,想象着玫瑰花的芬芳;想象着你的衣服上洒满了玫瑰香水;感受着衣服质地的轻柔。总之,尽情陶醉吧!难道你就不想将强烈的转化为现实吗?没错,这种强烈的会激励你采取正确的方法来获得你想要的一切。
假设你是一个年轻俊美的少年,你就不渴望拥有一套合体的衣服吗?点燃你内心强烈的吧。想象它的颜色、款式、质地,以及你穿上衣服的样子。想象穿着这套衣服与女友约会时的浪漫!想象穿着这件衣服去见母亲的骄傲,或是穿着这件衣服到办公室的满足感……总之,肆意地想象穿着这套衣服之后的场景。难道你不想做些什么来使自己获得这套衣服吗?难道你不想靠着的指引,用正确的方法来获得这套衣服吗?
有没有你期盼已久的职位?想象一下收入丰厚的职位所带来的喜悦。想象着收获的欢欣;想象着自己在不断进步;想象着自己得到这份工作后的愉悦心情。总之,无拘无束地想象你得到这个职位后的快乐心情,以及它对你的影响,而不仅仅只是停留在思考和许愿上,你便会迈出脚步,让梦想成真。
心灵小语
如果仅用双眼去看周围的世界而不懂得如何去抑制消极思想,那么你的头脑中根本不会出现希望的明灯。如果把思想比做摄像机,那么你一定要学会捕捉美景,这样才能将未来定格在美好的画面上!
Firing+the+Heartdesire+of+Your+Ideal
Brown+Landone
Wishes+are+but+wishes+they+lead+only+to+wishing+more+wishes.+Desires+are+heartbeats+of+soul+they+demand+and+impel+to+action.+A+wish+turns+ever+to+itself,+wishing+that+something+will+come+to+make+itself+true.+A+desire+goes+out+from+self+It+daringly1+reaches+out,+demanding+the+thing+desired,+and+divinely+creates+it+in+reality.
Put+the+following+truths+together:+Desire+is+the+heart+of+your+ideal+in+this+heart+are+the+fires+of+attainment+sometimes+they+die+down+and+are+dim+sometimes+they+burn+brightly+and+glow+with+hope+and+set+fire+to+action+unless+they+thus+burn+with+the+light+of+hope+and+the+fire+of+action,+your+ideal+will+not+come+true.+When+the+fires+of+desire+are+dimmed+by+disappointments+or+discouragement,+or+memories+of+the+failures+of+the+past,+what+are+you+going+to+do+about+it?+Feed+the+fires+with+your+feelings+and+emotions!Your+thoughts+will+not+do+they+are+but+damp+wood+and+wet+sand.+Desires+are+of+the+heart+they+cannot+be+made+to+burn+brightly+by+adding+ideas+and+thoughts+of+the+mind.
Is+it+a+thing—a+material+thing—you+have+desired+and+for+which+desire+burns+low+because+of+past+failures+to+attain+it,+or+is+it+a+new+desire+that+dares+not+burn+brightly+for+fear+of+disappointment+should+it+not+be+attained?+Fire+your+desire+so+that+it+will+come+true.+Fire+it+with+your+feelings+and+emotions.
Are+you+a+young+woman+and+is+it+a+dainty+rosecolored+gown+you+desire?+Image+the+color+of+it+and+feel+the+joy+of+gowning+yourself+in+that+color.+Feel+the+pleasure+it+would+give+you+to+look+at+yourself+in+that+color.+Think+of+its+color+again,+the+color+of+roses.+Imagine+that+you+have+perfumed2+the+gown+with+just+a+touch+of+essence+of+roses.+Feel+the+joy+of+smelling+the+sweet+odor+of+roses.+Feel+the+joy+of+smelling+the+perfume+with+which+your+dress+is+scented.+Think+of+the+feel+of+the+material,+—how+soft+and+delicate.+Feel+the+joy+you+feel+in+feeling+it.+Isn’t+your+desire+fired+and+burning+with+impulse+to+act?+Will+you+not+do+something+to+get+that+dress?+And,+idealizing+your+doing,+you+will+do+it+in+the+right+way+and+get+it+in+the+right+way.
Are+you+a+young+man+desiring+a+new+suit+of+clothes?+Fire+your+desire+with+your+feelings.+Image+the+suit+you+wish—its+color,+cut,+form,+material,+and+fit+to+you.+Feel+how+happy+you+would+feel+dressed+in+that+suit+calling+on+the+girl+you+love.+Feel+how+proud+you+would+feel+if+you+could+wear+it+when+going+home+to+see+mother.+Feel+how+satisfied+you+would+feel+walking+into+the+office+dressed+in+that+suit.+Feel+all+your+good+feelings—felt+under+all+other+conditions—in+relation+to+that+suit.+Isn’t+your+desire+fired+to+the+point+where+you+will+do+something+to+get+it+and,+idealizing+your+doing,+you+will+do+the+right+thing+and+get+it+in+the+right+way?
Is+it+a+position+you+desire?+Feel+the+joy+the+income+of+that+position+would+give+you.+Feel+the+pleasures+you+could+obtain+with+that+income.+Feel+the+true+pride+of+advancement3.+Feel+the+joy+of+knowing+you+have+attained+the+position+and+made+good.+Feel+all+these+feelings—feeding+your+desires+with+your+feelings—instead+of+with+wishes+and+thoughts,and+you+will+do+something+to+attain+that+which+you+desire.
幸福
佚名
西方有一句广为流传的谚语:“如果你想要几个小时的幸福,那就去喝酒;如果你想要三年的幸福,那就去结婚;如果你想要一生的幸福,那就去做园艺工作。”据说这句谚语源于古老的中国。人们对于最后一种选择是这样解释的:“园艺工作不仅实用,而且有助于让你与自然合为一体,从而改善你的健康状况,每天给你带来全新的快乐。”
我曾读过美国一所大学发表的一篇研究报告,它是这样定义“幸福”的:让人觉得舒适、心情畅快。具体说来,一个人对自己的生活感到有意义、满意和舒适的积极状态就是幸福。幸福不是短暂的,而应该是一种持续的状态。
许多人认为,最大的幸福莫过于处于空闲的状态。然而,一项调查显示,有大量空闲时间的人是感受不到幸福的,忙于工作的人才能享受到幸福,尤其是那些几乎没有闲暇时间的、在工作中忙碌的人们。获得并不是幸福,对所追求事物的渴望才是幸福。对于已经拥有的东西,人们常常不懂得珍惜,却渴望那些无法得到的东西。有些男人就是如此,他们不肯静下心来对待陪伴在身旁的女人,却痴迷于无数个梦中情人的幻想中。
幸福是一种对已经拥有事物和渴望拥有事物的平衡游戏,也就是梦想和实现梦想的可能性。一项研究表明:幸福的人是既能够树立高远的目标,又不会忘记实际情况的人;幸福的人是认为自己的能力和潜能富有挑战性的人;幸福的人是因自己的成就和社会的认可而感到自豪的人;幸福的人是自尊、自信的人,他肯定自我,并且热爱自由;幸福的人善于社交,并且能够从与其他人进行的广泛交流中得到乐趣;幸福的人热心助人,并且愿意接受别人的帮助;幸福的人能够承受痛苦和挫折,并且善于从日常琐事中得到乐趣;幸福的人是拥有爱心,并富于热情的人。
Happiness
Anonymous
A+proverb+allegedly+from+ancient+China+was+widely+spread+in+the+West:“If+you+want+to+be+happy+for+a+few+hours,+go+to+get+drunk+If+you+want+the+happiness+to+last+three+years,+get+married+If+you+want+a+lifetime+happiness,+take+up+gardening.”+The+reason+for+the+last+option+is+this:+Gardening+is+not+only+useful,+it+helps+you+to+identify+yourself+with+nature,+and+thus+brings+you+new+joy+each+day+besides+improving+your+health.+
A+research+of+a+U.S.+university+that+I’ve+read+gives+a+definition+of+happiness+as+what+makes+a+person+feel+comfortably+pleased.+To+put+it+specifically,+happiness+is+an+active+state+of+mind+where+one+thinks+one’s+life+is+meaningful,+satisfactory+and+comfortable.+This+should+be+something+lasting+rather+than+transitory.
Lots+of+people+regard+it+the+happiest+to+be+at+leisure.+But+according+to+a+study,+it+is+not+a+person+with+plenty+of+leisure+but+one+at+work+that+feels+happy,+especially+those+busy+with+work+having+little+time+for+leisure.+Happiness+does+not+spell+gains+one+is+after+but+a+desire+to+harvest+what+one+is+seeking+for.+People+often+do+not+cherish+what+they+already+have+but+yearn+for+what+they+cannot+get.+That+is+somewhat+like+a+man+indulging+in+fond+dreams+of+numerous+lovers+while+reluctant+to+settle+down+with+the+woman+beside+him.+
Happiness+is+a+game+balancing+between+two+ends—what+one+has+and+what+one+wishes+for,+such+as+one’s+dream+and+the+possibility+to+realize+it.+The+study+comes+to+this+conclusion:+A+happy+man+is+one+who+aims+high+but+never+forgets+his+actual+situation:+one+who+meets+challenges+that+tap+his+ability+and+potentiality;+one+who+is+proud+of+his+achievements+and+the+recognition+given+to+him.+He+has+selfrespect+and+selfconfidence+treasures+his+own+identity+and+loves+freedom.+He+is+sociable+and+enjoys+wide+range+communication+with+others+he+is+helpful+and+ready+to+accept+assistance.+He+knows+he+is+able+to+endure+sufferings+and+frustrations;+he+is+sensible+enough+to+get+fun+from+daily+chores.+He+is+a+man+capable+of+love+and+passion. 无尽的昏迷过后,时宇猛地从床上起身。想要看最新章节内容,请下载星星阅读app,无广告免费阅读最新章节内容。网站已经不更新最新章节内容,已经星星阅读小说APP更新最新章节内容。
他大口的呼吸起新鲜的空气,胸口一颤一颤。
迷茫、不解,各种情绪涌上心头。
这是哪?
随后,时宇下意识观察四周,然后更茫然了。
一个单人宿舍?
就算他成功得到救援,现在也应该在病房才对。
还有自己的身体……怎么会一点伤也没有。
带着疑惑,时宇的视线快速从房间扫过,最终目光停留在了床头的一面镜子上。
镜子照出他现在的模样,大约十七八岁的年龄,外貌很帅。
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之前的自己,是一位二十多岁气宇不凡的帅气青年,工作有段时间了。
而现在,这相貌怎么看都只是高中生的年纪……
这个变化,让时宇发愣很久。
千万别告诉他,手术很成功……
身体、面貌都变了,这根本不是手术不手术的问题了,而是仙术。
他竟完全变成了另外一个人!
难道……是自己穿越了?
除了床头那摆放位置明显风水不好的镜子,时宇还在旁边发现了三本书。
时宇拿起一看,书名瞬间让他沉默。
《新手饲养员必备育兽手册》
《宠兽产后的护理》
《异种族兽耳娘评鉴指南》
时宇:???
前两本书的名字还算正常,最后一本你是怎么回事?
“咳。”
时宇目光一肃,伸出手来,不过很快手臂一僵。
就在他想翻开第三本书,看看这究竟是个什么东西时,他的大脑猛地一阵刺痛,大量的记忆如潮水般涌现。
冰原市。
宠兽饲养基地。
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